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We offer individual programmes of support tailored to each family or each person’s needs. We provide confidential information, offer practical help and support your recovery.

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You may not want other people to know that you’ve been searching for information or help from websites such as Behind Closed Doors.

Practical
Support

  • Support to reduce high levels of risk
  • Support with Police, legal or court related issues
  • Support to obtain new housing or refuge accommodation
  • Support with benefits, debt or budgeting problems
  • Support with Social Care involvement and meetings
  • Support with alcohol / substance misuse issues

People requiring this type of support should contact the 24-hour Leeds Domestic Violence Service Helpline on 0113 246 0401. Leeds Domestic Violence Service will make a referral into the most appropriate part of the service to meet the assessed risk level and practical needs of the individual.

Ongoing support from our Prevention and Recovery Service will still be an option when risk has reduced and most practical needs have been met.

Information
and Emotional
Support

  • Information to help identify whether it is domestic abuse
  • Support to deal with feelings and emotions resulting from abuse
  • Support to re-build self-esteem and self-confidence
  • Support to understand abusive and healthy relationships
  • Support to learn about warning signs
  • Support to understand the impact of abuse on adults and children

Emotional support and information to prevent risk increasing and to recover from an abusive relationship is offered through our Prevention and Recovery Service (PARS). Please select the correct referral type below

We are sorry to say that due to the high demand for the Prevention and Recovery Service, we are unable to take any new referrals at this time.

We monitor demand for the service every week, so please keep checking to see when the waiting list is open again.

Worried
about someone ?

If you are looking at this page out of concern for a friend or a loved one, here you will find guidance about how to safely support them

1. Reassurance
  • If your friend or loved one has disclosed they are being mistreated or abused, this is a positive sign that they may want help.
  • They may feel embarrassed, ashamed or worried about who you might tell.
  • Reassure them it is not their fault and they are not to blame.
  • Reassure them they are not alone, it happens to many people.
  • They may not tell you everything as they may have been told they are imagining it, no-one will believe them, they are mentally ill etc.
  • Remind your friend or loved one of their good qualities and that it takes great strength and courage to survive domestic abuse, to help maintain their self-esteem.
2. Safety
  • Don’t tell them that they have to end the relationship – they may not be ready for this yet.
  • If there are children in the home, they will probably be witnessing much of the abuse. You may want to make a referral to Social Services for help – you can call them anonymously if you just want to talk it through and get advice.
  • Don’t tackle the abuser yourself, it could put you at risk and increase the risk to your friend or loved one.
  • Keep yourself safe.
3. Support
  • They may not recognise it as abuse, particularly if they have experienced it before or grown up in an abusive home.
  • Keep in touch with them wherever possible to prevent them from becoming more isolated. Don’t give up on them.
  • Tell them you are concerned for them but you will support their choices.
  • Try not to judge your friend or loved one – they really need you. Try not to be frustrated when they don’t take action or leave and then return – this is very common. Many people leave abusive relationships several times before it finally ends.
  • Help them to identify the support they can have from others (from friends, family and support agencies) when they are ready to do something about it.
4. Information
  • Be clear that there is nothing your friend/loved one can do to stop the other person being abusive; the abuser must take responsibility for their behaviour and want to stop. This usually requires professional help over a significant period of time.
  • Acknowledge how difficult and confusing it must be if they still love the abuser.
  • Find out information for them – let them know you have the information when they are ready to look at it. You could find out about local specialist domestic abuse agencies, information to help them recognise they are being abused, find out if there are local Solicitors who could give free initial advice or research websites for information.