DOMESTIC ABUSE: WHAT ARE THE SIGNS?
Signs of domestic violence and abuse can often go unnoticed. Listed below are 16 signs that may indicate that someone is affected by abuse:
These often leave the person feeling more dependent on the abuser, keeping them from realising their own self-worth and making it increasingly difficult to leave.
Bruising, cuts or injuries occurring frequently, or in areas that can be hidden by clothing, or perhaps is walking stiffly or appears sore. Sometimes gives explanations for injuries that don’t fit with the description or downplay their severity.
Displays physical symptoms related to stress, other anxiety disorders or depression, such as panic attacks, feelings of isolation and an inability to cope. May even talk about suicide attempts or self-harming.
Absent from work
Often off work, takes time off without notice or is frequently late. When they are at work they perform poorly, isolate themselves or are frequently checking their phone.
You may notice personality changes when around their partner. They may be jumpy or show nervous mannerisms.
Has low self-esteem when talking about relationships or their life in general and may seem sad, cry or be depressed.
Lack of opportunity to communicate independently
Perhaps their partner talks over them, or for them, and they may be reluctant to speak. Their partner can appear controlling or make disparaging remarks to them.
May take the blame for anything that happens, whether it’s at work, with the kids or with friends. May blame themselves for the abuse.
Lack of money
Perhaps they never seem to have any money on them or forgets their purse/wallet because their partner is withholding money to control them.
May make excuses for not going out with friends, or suddenly pulls out of social meets at the last minute.
Their partner displays irrational behaviour
May say that their partner is jealous, irrational/possessive, or you can pick up that they behave this way. Their partner may accuse them of having affairs, check phone or constantly phone to check up on them.
Pregnancy often triggers the start of domestic abuse. She may be unhappy at being pregnant, not wish to continue with the pregnancy, or be forced into having a termination.
May use alcohol or drugs to cope or even prescribed drugs such as tranquillisers or anti-depressants.
Lack of assertiveness
Seem distressed when it comes to making decisions, sticking up for themselves, iving their own opinion.
Damage to property
Damage may be observed in the home or even harm to pets.
Unwilling to give out personal details
May not give friends and colleagues their address or telephone number. May insist that they contact you, so that you don’t turn up on their doorstep.
Do you or a loved one exhibit any of these signs? If so call the Leeds Domestic Violence 24hr Service:
Providing support to people in the Leeds District whose lives have been affected by Domestic Violence and Abuse